We all need some small doses of healthy narcissism to prevent us from being doormats or chronic people pleasers. But what is narcissistic abuse?
Unfortunately for most co-dependants putting one self first does not come naturally. In an attempt to care, please and fix their beloved the co-dependant may initially completely ignore that their partner is not showing them the same level of consideration and depth of emotion. The result of narcissist abuse is that one ends up becoming remorseful and tends to suffer from low-self worth and anger.
A Narcissist is hard to detect with many appearing to be very charming on the surface, however, they may not always fit the notorious charismatic outgoing stereotype. If not charismatic, a narcissist maybe very likeable to begin with, or perhaps even shy making them very difficult to classify.
Those with narcissistic personality disorder can be identified as having an extreme sense of entitlement, a strong need for admiration and a lack of empathy. They may see you merely as an extension of themselves with the emphasis on what you can provide for them. A narcissist may treat you in a superficial way and not as a person with real feelings and needs. They have difficulties with intimacy, can be both discounting and unreliable leading to a deep sense of betrayal for their victim.
Honesty and humility are neither qualities a narcissist may behold, however, they also tend to be deeply wounded when it comes to any criticism or feedback. They often use gaslighting as a tactic to make you feel like you are the source of the problem, denying you the right to be upset. It is for this reason that being in a relationship with a narcissist can be extremely exasperating, overwhelming and soul-destroying. Complete personal empowerment is required for recovery from narcissistic abuse. I am able to fast track your recovery from narcissistic abuse so you can get your self esteem and respect back… to become a fierce and resilient version of you.
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