When trying to find a couples coach or counsellor you may feel confused and wonder which couple therapy is best for you.
I am going to give you an overview of the top three couple therapies (therapy models) being used today.
Gottman has forty years of excellent research on what makes a marriage work.
The Gottman Relationship Check-up is the most comprehensive relationship assessment ever collated which makes it easy and time effective in targeting the core issues in your relationship.
The Gottman method provides interventions, strategies and antidotes for each issue a couple may present with.
I really love how the Gottman method works with the strengths of the couple, something that is often be overlooked couple therapy.
A lot of couples find Imago therapy to be the most suitable couple therapy for them.
Harville Hendrix the creator of Imago therapy has fantastic easy to remember golden rules and analogies that really help couples relate to one another better.
Imago couple therapy teaches couples to improve their dialogue through curiosity and compassion in exchange of defence mechanisms and misunderstandings.
I refer to Imago as the bible of love, for those who stick to the “commandments” are closer to finding relationship success.
Stan Taktin, founder of the PACT Training Institute has developed a powerful psychobiological approach to couple therapy.
The PACT model integrates both neuroscience and attachment theory and incorporates very useful emotional arousal regulation exercises for couples.
This couple therapy centres on early attachment and its effects on the brain and nervous system.
The PACT couple therapy model promotes the secure-functioning of a couple by way of deepening their under-standing of emotional triggers in order to decrease and defuse them.
I strongly resonate with these three couple therapy models due to the evidence based methods and results I have with my clients.
I am big on research and analysis so Gottman’s couple therapy model appeals to me on this level.
The Imago couple therapy model offers a robust but gentle approach to improving dialogue within the relationship.
The PACT approach is extremely useful for catering to couples attachment styles.
I find that by combining all three models I am able to provide my clients the best tools currently being used in couple therapy today.
I do, however, find there is one element to couple counselling that is missing in this current mix of very effective therapies.
I incorporate non-religious spiritual tools in my couple therapy practice that bring powerful shifts of reverence, devotion, forgiveness and healing within the relationship.
We are all spiritual beings and our partnership is a spiritual communion with a sanctity that needs preserving.
And so… I provide an integrated couple therapy approach that incorporates psycho-educational and psychobiological tools developed by the masters and the missing ‘miracle of love’ element that acts as a cleansing and bonding agent to the relationship.
For couple counselling (face-to face or via Skype) please contact me on support@martinamagnery.com.au
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